Emotional Intelligence Skill #4: Humour
- (EQ) skill 4: The ability to use humor and play to deal with challenges. Humor, laughter, and play are natural antidotes to life’s difficulties. They lighten your burdens and help you keep things in perspective. A good hearty laugh reduces stress, elevates mood, and brings your nervous systemback into balance.
Playful communication broadens your emotional intelligence and helps you:
- Take hardships in stride. By allowing you to view your frustrations and disappointments from new perspectives, laughter and play enable you to survive annoyances, hard times, and setbacks.
- Smooth over differences. Using gentle humor often helps you say things that might be otherwise difficult to express without creating a flap.
- Simultaneously relax and energize yourself. Playful communication relieves fatigue and relaxes your body, which allows you to recharge and accomplish more.
- Become more creative. When you loosen up, you free yourself of rigid ways of thinking and being, allowing you to get creative and see things in new ways.
How to develop playful communication:
It’s never too late to develop and embrace your playful, humorous side.
- Try setting aside regular, quality playtime. The more you joke, play, and laugh—the easier it becomes.
- Find enjoyable activities that loosen you up and help you embrace your playful nature.
- Practice by playing with animals, babies, young children, and outgoing people who appreciate playful banter.
- THIS IS MY ONE AND ONLY TRUE SKILL – I CAN AND WILL LAUGH AT ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING, DELIRIOUSLY WITHOUT ANY SELF-CONSIOUSNESS. HUMOUR HAS GOTTEN ME THROUGH THE HARD TIMES, THE DAILY FRUSTRATIONS OF LIVING WITH ADHD (UNDIAGNOSED/UNTREATED, DIAGNOSED AND TREATED THEN DIAGNOSED AND UNTREATED).
- MY ABILITY TO SEE HOW RIDICULOUS MOST THINGS ARE IN LIFE HAS ENABLED ME TO RIDE THE STORMS AND NOT TAKE MYSELF TOO SERIOUSLY.
- YES, I HAVE BEEN ACCUSED OF LAUGHING AT INAPPROPRIATE TIMES AND I HAVE BEEN TOLD MY HUMOUR IS INAPPROPRIATE AND I HAVE BEEN TOLD MY HUMOUR IS OFTEN “DARK” (WHATEVER THAT MEANS).
- REGARDLESS OF AN UNAPPRECIATIVE AUDIENCE, I WOULD NOT TRADE MY SENSE OF HUMOUR FOR ANYTHING IN THE WORLD.

