“ADHD is not a damaged or defective nervous system. It is a nervous system that works well using its own set of rules”
This is what I’ve been saying all along…we are not broken so stop trying to fix us!
5 years ago, my nephew committed suicide at the age of 17. This was posted by his mother, my brother’s ex.
My brother found out last night that his son was gone forever. That there would never be any chance of a reconnection between father and son.
My brother is devastated and overwhelmed with the guilt and sadness he is feeling.
My heart aches for him.
You know, those people you meet that act all “holier than thou”, putting on a show about how morally better than everyone else they are.
Most avoid these people like the plague. Right?
Unfortunately, some families contain many sanctimonious people.
Like my family.
I often wonder how they re-write their own histories in their heads. I also wonder why they re-write history and then try to preach to the rest of us sinners:)
Sometimes, it annoys me. Irritating like a mosquito buzzing in my ear.
And…sometimes it makes me angry.
I get these angry messages inside my head telling me to lash out, strike dirty and hard to put them back in their places. Just to make it clear to them that I’m not fooled by their actions. I can see the real them. And I want them to know I know.
But I always swallow these urges to lash out. I fight them. Hard. I don’t want to be mean and nasty to the people I love. Even when those people are acting like shitheads.
And then I wonder if I act sanctimonious sometimes. What a horrible that is to me!!!
Are you one of those people? Do you go through life sniffing disdainfully at those around you, acting like your shit don’t stink?
If so, then you should stop. Seriously. It is a stupid way to act. And you don’t fool anyone either.
So what is the point? Are you fooling yourself into thinking you’re “all that”?
If so, that just makes you a moron.
“I’ve found that working with my ADHD has provided me with a great source of energy and enthusiasm to do what I do”
Bryan Hutchinson and Will i AM:) sweet
oh yeah, and me too!
click on the link below to read about Bryan’s thoughts on Will i AM’s admission of having ADHD and how he made it…in my opinion, Because of his ADHD not in spite of…just sayin’
lots of people with ADHD have an intense emotional reaction to things- we feel “too strongly.” Not in a negative way, but in a neurobiological sense.
Once again Terry Matlen is right on…read the entire article by clicking the link below
I’m feelin’ mighty smug these days.
I know that is never a good thing cause all the smug guys in the movies end up getting that smugness “slapped right off their faces “every time:)
I can hardly contain myself though.
Sis has been here for a little more than 3 weeks…maybe a month at most.
She stopped vibrating by the end of week 2.
She sleeps a solid 8 hours every night.
She laughs hysterically at all my antics. Bonus! An appreciative audience!
She applied for 3 jobs this week without any prompting from us.
She started working full-time yesterday, likes the people as much as they like her and appears content with this direction for her life.
We made sure, from the start, that she is welcome to live here for as long as she wants, no need to move out on her own if she doesn’t want to live alone. No need to get a job either…she’s fine doing whatever she wants, even just hanging around the house doing nothing if that is what she needs to do, food and shelter always available to her nevertheless.
Madness you think!
But there is a method to my madness.
I know my sister fairly well. The very basic genetics is her ADD…she cannot be idle for very long. She gets antsy, restless and quickly bored “sitting around doing nothing”. She is not a lazy person and likes to be outside in nature, working manually helps quiet and control that incessant restlessness caused by the ADD. Together, we have cleared a quarter of our acre yard that has grown to wild proportions and strewn with various trash items from the former owners. We have enough pallets to build a great shelter for the firewood. Sweet!
As far as her nervousness goes…well, it hasn’t disappeared but at least her emotions do not overwhelm her. Like me, strong emotions make her physically ill. Difference now? Someone else is here, with similar, acknowledged issues. The external pressure to “grow up” and not be so “dramatic” is gone.
When she first arrived, her loneliness was heavy on her thin shoulders, weighing her size 1 frame like an ocean liner anchor. She talked non-stop for 14 straight days! Poor thing, I felt very sad for her. And I often thought “OMG! Will this constant chatter ever stop?!” LOL. I’d go to bed with a throbbing head every night:)
Still, that slight discomfort was worth it.
My heart feels good when I say good morning and good night to her.
The frightened, trembling, sad-eyed woman has been replaced with my sister of yester-year.
So good to see.
And, yes, me being me I wonder for how long.
Still, that smug feeling of knowing I had the right way to help won’t go away yet.
Good thing my brothers and other sister are mad enough not to talk to us…I’d be crowing like a rooster how wrong they were and how right I am:).
That’s always a recipe for future embarrassment, right?
Dr. Gabor Mate wrote a book about ADD that is truly logical and insightful, not to mention hopeful and positive. You can read a few chapters on his website drgabormate.com
Totally worth it people!
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Illogical humans save the cats although scientific evidence shows how they are a menace to the bird population.
So, why do we save cats instead of saving all the birds?
Cats are cute but so are all the birds.
So, what is the answer to controlling these beasts?