My conclusions about IQ vs EQ

If you feel the need to work on your EQ, please visit

Bring Your Life Into Balance

HELPGUIDE’S FREE STRESS-BUSTING, MOOD-BOOSTING MINDFULNESS TOOLKIT  http://www.helpguide.org/toolkit/emotional_health.htm

The entire help guide/toolkit is free and can be done online!  Fantastic!

Will I work on my EQ?  Doubtful.  I have visited this site many times and am overwhelmed with all of it.

English: Job's Sons and Daughters Overwhelmed ...

English: Job’s Sons and Daughters Overwhelmed by Satan, by William Blake. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I am convinced that EQ will outweigh IQ each and every time.

English: Crazy stuff

English: Crazy stuff (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Why?

Well, if you look around you, the most intelligent of people screw up all the time.  They screw up because they are not able to use their intelligence in any given situation…the emotional response has taken over and no amount of intelligence is going to change how they feel in the moment!

The Emotional Plague

The Emotional Plague (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Rationality takes a permanent vacation when your entire response and beliefs are based on your emotional reaction to a situation.

A Brief Vacation

A Brief Vacation (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

People can live their whole lives in a very self-destructive mode based on their emotions.  They can come up with intelligent reasons why they are living in such a way without realizing their emotions prompted them to the point of harmful living.

We All Have Demons

We All Have Demons (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

The first example that comes to mind is about a person living with an eating disorder.  First they are out of control, either purging, bingeing or starving themselves in reaction to pure emotions they cannot handle.  Once on the road to ‘recovery”, whatever road they choose, the battle is a daily one and rationalization becomes part and parcel for the duration of the process.

The logo of the Vegan Society (UK), which asso...

The logo of the Vegan Society (UK), which associated international groups of such (similar) societies based on veganism. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Then, a new way of eating and living is born, seemingly healthy and intelligently thought out, based on sound food choices etc.  But, if you look closer, you can see the constant obsession with food is still there.  Not only is it still there, it is high on that persons list of priorities. All that healthy living lifestyle, eating right and exercise, is still primarily all about control.

Raw vegan lunch. Spicy seaweed wraps with pean...

Raw vegan lunch. Spicy seaweed wraps with peanut sauce (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

It becomes; control what you eat, control your movements, control how you look, control yourself.  Thoughts about emotions and what brought them to that brink are repressed, not spoken of and hidden away, buried beneath a whole lot of self-delusion.  And that is why the urges to binge, purge and starve never really go away.  Because the emotions are not really dealt with.  To fully feel and deal with the devastating traumas that brought them to such a destructive self-view is too much to handle so the lid must become more firmly locked into place by any means possible.

Demons of the Mind

Demons of the Mind (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I subscribe to the mindset that says “lock up the hurt and throw away the key”.  Never letting it out would work best for me.  After all, if the mind turned itself off to protect you from the emotional devastation of the trauma, then the mind must have known what it was doing, right?

Alcatraz Island

Alcatraz Island (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Wrong, so the experts say.  Repressing only works for a time.  The trauma to your psyche comes out, no matter what you do, it will seep out in the most insidious ways.  But it will always come out.

Demons by Daylight

Demons by Daylight (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I half believe the experts are correct.

Resistance (Alove for Enemies album)

Resistance (Alove for Enemies album) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I only half believe them because I was able to repress emotional trauma for 40 years.  40 years is a long, long time!  Unfortunately the time came when I have had to fight with the emotions, push them away, try to re-bury them because the “seeping” has taken its toll on my life in a major physical way.  I do not want to deal with any traumas of the past.  I do not want to deal with anything that was ugly enough to be locked away so tightly.

Exorcise the Demons

Exorcise the Demons (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I just don’t want to.
I’m busy.  I don’t have time for this.  Stuff to do.  Lots and lots of stuff.

Who’s got time for all this self-improvement crap?  Not me.  Besides, I’m too old for this, right?

Tree dry

Tree dry (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I’ll think about this tomorrow.  Or maybe the next day…next month…next year….never.

Gone with the Wind cover

Gone with the Wind cover (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

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2 responses

  1. stillstrange | Reply

    cool Link. I added it to My Favorites in case I want to go back and do it. ..should I ever have time.

    1. Let me know if you do…from what I could tell it seems like it could be potentially very effective. But you’re right about the time thing…seems like it would take forever and a day LOL

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